Deep Conviction

This week several people told me the same thing I hear ever year at this time. “I am going to begin doing this and accomplish this.” This year my response has been, “Probably not.” The immediate look on people’s faces is one that screams, “Why so discouraging?” Once I see the look I say, “Unless you care a whole lot, more than you care about anything else, you will not accomplish this change.” The look of discouragement turns to one of deep contemplation. The fact of the matter is that the majority of people who set resolutions have already broken them.

Without a deep conviction, solid plan, and people around you to support you, the chances are slim that anything is going to change. Over the past two decades, I have been involved in the business of change, and it is the most challenging work. What can you learn from reading this? Acknowledge that what you are trying to accomplish is going against the grain of what you have always done. To accomplish change will take every bone in your body. Let’s face it; you are trying to become somebody you are currently not. You are trying to give birth to a new you. Women have told me that giving birth is the most painful thing they have ever gone through. Are you willing to endure this kind of effort to give birth to a new you?

3 Responses to “Deep Conviction”

  • Cara Bradley says:

    Amen brother. Thank you for putting it so eloquently. Change is uncomfortable and there are no shortcuts around the discomfort.

  • Jac says:

    I agree with you that change is difficult, although not impossible and that it takes deep courage and conviction . However, I believe that when we make changes that we believe in with all of our hearts, souls and spirit, rather than becoming sometbody that we are not, we are actually becoming closer to our true selves, and shedding that which we are not. We are coming more truly and fully the best version of the person we are right now.
    I was recently at a retreat where we discussed that if we do not like ourselves, and see our innate goodness, no spiritual practice will help us. In order to make any change that will bring out our true brilliant nature, it is imperative that we believe that we are complete and we are good right now. I think that when many people endeavor to make changs in their lives, they are beginning with the idea that there is something wrong with them and they need to fix it. Instead, to help bring about real change, it is vital to start from believing we do not need to be fixed, and then we can honestly start to change the patterns that do not help us to honor who we are.

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